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Date: 03/12/2013

By: Deano

Subject: stumbled....

....and fell into this blog. What are the chances?

Glad to see you are still here and fighting for more than just life.

You articulate so many of my thoughts. I've lived the try-hard life - professionally, personally, spiritually, emotionally - and realised that I had it all wrong. That I was chasing something that simply didn't exist. I pissed off pretty much every person I ever met along the way, nobody more so than myself, consumed more drugs and beer than tasteful or funny, tried to be something I wasn't.... and now, just before my 40th I'm finally realising that all I need is to love and be loved.

The further I've run away from DJ'ing, making music, getting w******d, partying, being an ego, believing my own hype and surrounding myself with those people who perpetuate this nonsense, the closer to understanding myself I have become. I now raise 2 young boys, idolise the woman of my life and grow Bonsai. I live in a quiet market town in Hertfordshire, I don't know anybody here and nobody knows me. It's perfect...

I found blogging just a few weeks ago, and am still finding my feet injecting personality into it... this blog is a real inspiration

I dedicate my love and devote my attention to those under my care, and live to ensure they are given the best possible chance to be happy. Nothing more, nothing less.

I'm slowly coming to terms with the fact that decades of existential misery was blamed on everyone else, and created more - not just for me, but for those around me too. I've realised that they were all in the same futile race, the one which never ends and gets longer the harder you try to win it...

I've come to realise that there is more to life than just yourself. Some of us are capable of so much more, but just lack the courage and tenacity to make the leap.

I'm glad you found yourself and are fighting hard to spread the love.

Here's some back at you Jezza <3

Deano
DJ-Bonsai.blogspot.com

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Date: 11/09/2013

By: Helen

Subject: Lovin it

Still loving the blog. True words from an amazing guy. Hope Fi and twins and yo self are ok.
xx

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Date: 01/09/2013

By: Martin Maury

Subject: Jez

All the best mate. Just looked at the photo's. Much better scars than my shitty things after my bust neck. Good luck.

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Date: 27/01/2013

By: Joesph

Subject: Inspiring

I don't know you, but from what I've read you've struggled under adversity and won through where others wouldn't. Let us be clear then - we aren't after cash. Just advice, if you can give it. And if you want to.

Kind regards,

J Mercer.

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Date: 21/12/2012

By: Leonard

Subject: Ay up yoooouth..

Craig was on about this blog last week, finally got round to hunting it down today.
I'll read it all over the crustmas period.
Have a good time in the lowlands, will definitely catch up with you in the new year.
Take care mate x

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Date: 06/12/2012

By: Kate Jessop (worked with your sister years ago!!)

Subject: Inspirational

Jezza, its been a long time since I saw you, probably Rach and Adys wedding! When I heard about your blog I knew I had to read it, and im so glad I did, you are an inspirational man.

I work in the Queens Centre of Oncology and Haematology in Hull, the regions best cancer centre as a Staff Nurse, I see people throughout varying stages of the awful disease which is cancer, and no matter what knowledge I have on cancer, drugs and dying, I dont know how it feels to have it happen to me, to feel the pain, surgery, treatments.

Some patients like to hear the raw, harsh truth, they share stories with the patient in the opposite bed despite that person is a different age,have a different diagnosis, different treatment plan yet they like to know they are not alone.

You my friend are what cancer patients need, your the breathe of fresh air thats on their side, you know how they feel and have the stories that cancer has been a part of. Keep up writing, continue getting stronger, be patient - your body is an amazing healer, but like a fine wine it takes a little while longer to get good!, and never ever change!!

I will tell my patients to read your blog, tell my collegues to read it too and share it far and wide.

Keep Smiling Jezza

Big Hugs

Kate x

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Date: 07/12/2012

By: rachie

Subject: Re: Inspirational

Brilliant Kate, as are you and what you do x x x

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Date: 07/12/2012

By: Kate

Subject: Re: Re: Inspirational

Thanks Rach, I try my hardest! lots of love xxx

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Date: 01/12/2012

By: Sue Perry

Subject: Getting it

I'm ashamed to say that I've only just started reading this. I'm glad for this slow Saturday morning where I have time to catch up. The reflection of your mind in your words is beautiful. My Grandad is going for an operation to remove a cancer in his colon on Monday. I'm going to channel your strength to him through my mind box. Much love big boss man x

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Date: 25/11/2012

By: helen

Subject: is the world ready??

Not just one but two! Bloody hell Jez! Congratulations! Best of luck to you and Fi, hope the babies get her looks. Now you really are Big Daddy Jezza.

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Date: 25/11/2012

By: Thais

Subject: An overdue note

Well, for the past 3 weeks you've been on my mind rather a lot. Adam and I have been reading you're blog nearly every day. If one of us missed it the other one would make sure we did, "have you read Jez's blog today", "no, is everything ok?" and there we go, off to read your piece of mind. I got so into it that I ended up feeling a little bit like you do, on top of the world, dissapointed or even low. I know nothing compares to what you really feel like but just wanted you to know that I share your pain, your highs and lows.
You have been an inspiration for the past 3 weeks but words have failed me to give you some written support.
Today, after a night out and 3 glasses of wine, which is very rare for me, I woke up later than normal, rather tired and spaced out because I had been "drinking" and I didn't go to bed at my usual bedtime, that is not much later than the girls bedtime! Yes, I know, it's ridiculous but that's my life now. I am lucky if it's 10 o'clock and still awake, otherwise you can find me passed out on the sofa in a very deep sleep.
Anyway, as I was saying, whilst having my morning coffee I logged in to facebook only to find out about your great news. I, seriously, nearly choke and let out a loud WTF followed by a OMG. Right, this is the weird bit, I cannot described how good I felt, how happy I am for you, I even shed a tear, ok, maybe two. I can't stop thinking about it and how much this would motivate you towards your recovery. This is just what you needed, something that big to focus on. And you two deserve it and can't help but saying, about bloody time guys!!!! I still remember that day that we met for a coffee in Cribbs, how Lara warmed to you instantly and me thinking you'll make a great dad one day. Well, this is it, you are going to be Big Daddy Jezza and what can I say about Fifi, one of Adam's oldest and greatest friends who became my friend as well very quickly. One of the first people I've met even before I moved to the UK.
This is big man!! I feel soooo uplifted, over the moon!!!
There's an idea, you should write a book about your story, it is so inspirational!! There, I said it!!
I thought it was about time to write something on your blog so there you go! This comes from my heart, not really thinking what I am writing just how I feel. Sorry if it doesn't make any sense at times, just remember english is not my mother tongue!!
Big love xxx

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Date: 16/11/2012

By: Tony

Subject: The Right Stuff

Jez,
Your amazing story continues. I wanted to say "journey", but refuse to employ X Factor Judge vocabulary.
The blog, is honest, direct and compelling, which is exactly what I would expect from you. I vividly remember visiting you in hospital after the first op. and being amazed at your physical and mental resilience - nothing has chnged in those respects.
Seriously though, when are you going to stop sodding about and buy me that drink you promised 6 months ago?
"Success is not final. Failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts".

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Date: 12/11/2012

By: Stew

Subject: Good luck

Jezza

Thinking of you mate and hope all goes well

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Date: 10/11/2012

By: cazzy b

Subject: wowcha!!!

hi jezza.,

just wanted to say you are an inspiratipn to all and i hope some day that many people find all of your thoughts and tribulations of some comfort if they ever have to go through this.

loving the blogs and u never fail to make me smile.

proud to be in your circle of friends and hope you heal as quick as you can so you come bust some moves in the shire soon

all love and respect

cazzy b
xxxx

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Date: 08/11/2012

By: langers

Subject: miss you!

Every sentence that you have written in this blog as been incredible! You're not only a credit to yourself but also to the millions of people that have been touched by cancer.
You're skill in writing is one the best I have seen in such a long time! I'm so proud of you Jezza!!

Anyway, work is crap without you! We all miss you so much! Bev is lovely, but she doesn't have the same presence as you! No crazy jackets to laugh about, and no huge smiles either! Back on world vision uplift Friday, can't help but laugh when I think of my offer to sit under your desk for the same money!
You jez, are a legend!

Rest up, be good, keep safe and smile :)

Big love,
Langers xx

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